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Loving
What Is
Four questions that can change your life, by Byron
Katie
From Amazon.com:
Remember the phrase "question authority"?
Loving What Is is a workbook on questioning authority--but
in this case, what is in question is the authority
of our own fundamental beliefs about our relationships.
Known simply as "The Work," Byron Katie's
methods are clean and straightforward. The basis
is a series of four questions addressed to your
own lists of written assumptions. Whether you're
angry with your boss, frustrated with your teen's
behavior, or appalled at the state of the world's
environment, Katie suggests you write down your
most honest thoughts on the matter, and then begin
the examination. Starting with, "Is it true?"
and continuing with explorations of "Who would
you be without that thought?" this method allows
you to get through unhelpful preconceptions and
find peace. An integral part of the process is "turning
the thought around," and at first this can
seem like you're simply blaming yourself for everything.
Push a little harder, and you'll find a very responsible
acceptance of reality, beyond questions of fault
and blame.
The book is filled with examples of folks applying
The Work to a variety of life situations, and reading
other's examples gets the idea across pretty clearly;
chances are you'll find your own frustrations echoed
on the pages a few times. Many chapters are divided
into specific topics, such as couples, money, addictions,
and self-judgments, with one chapter devoted to
exploring the method with children.
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